You can unhook and live free. This book is a brilliant guide to understanding yourself and how to unhook from negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings. The Method, as explained in this book is life changing. It was born out of a desperate desire to end suffering for Pam. She realized how well it worked and wanted to share it with you to help create a framework to unhook from thinking, traumas and behaviors that plague you. The Method has changed countless lives. Real change is possible. Your current experience is bound be threads to your stories both old and new. Pam teaches you how to unhook from the past in a new way to help you find freedom from shame, guild , fear and pain. You will know a new joy and freedom from your stories d the past traumas that affect your way of thinking today. She helps you to understand how beliefs and judgments cause attachment to negative thoughts and feelings. What she has learned is that her recovery, your recovery, every recovery is a life long journey. What she is offering is a way to have something to go back to that will help you and bring relief as you take the path back home to yourself. What she has done with The Method is to combine many processes into one guide that can be done daily, weekly or just used when needed. When you inquire into your thoughts and feelings on a daily basis you find yourself getting clearer and clearer with yourself. And through that process I find my true self. By finding my true self I find the love for myself and others that brings healing to you and to the world. We all get stuck. The problem with our thoughts is we believe them. But how does this happen? The way the mind works is like this: Something happens, an accident, an unkind word from someone, we get sick, we fall down, we make a mistake, they make a mistake, - there is an event and we have an emotional reaction. The reaction is both physical and emotional in nature. After our reaction, we have either a positive or negative thought; that worked, that did not work, that hurt, that helped, that did not help, that was good, that was bad. This thought creates a deeper reaction, more intense feelings due to the feeding of the thought and first reaction. Then we make up a story about the event and subsequent reactions and thoughts. It is human nature to try to make sense of our world. We want a solution, so we create a story to go with the event. This story creates a stronger reaction and it becomes more fixed and entrenched. This cycle creates a belief about you, a judgment about others or both. We then repeat the story to ourselves or others and reinforce the belief/judgment every time. The Method shows you how to welcome the thoughts and feelings associated with these stories and then unhook and release from them. Pam teaches how to use forgiveness and gratitude to develop new beliefs and judgments. This method of unhooking brings you into the light and fullness of life. As you will learn in this book, The Method has four (4) major themes; unhooking your thoughts, welcome and release of your beliefs and feelings, forgiveness and gratitude. As Pam studied and wondered about the main ideas that help her, these were the four concepts that kept coming up for her. She started to realize that most beliefs and judgments that she took for the truth were stories in her head. She would take something that had a truth in it but then would change it, distort it, exaggerate it or turn it into a completely new story. Through first recognizing how her past changed the story and then unhooking from these thoughts she found relief. It was not complete, but it was relief. When she added on the emotional work of welcoming and then releasing her thoughts, feelings and beliefs her relief grew dramatically. She learned over the years that if you take something out of your life without filling back up with something positive, it returns with a vengeance. That is why forgiveness and gratitude become so important. We need to forgive ourselves and others. This forgiveness helps us to let go even more. Naming what you are grateful for about this particular situation brings it full circle. You are back at your issue but with a different energy and belief about it.