Pam Moore
LCSW, PIP
About the author
I have been a therapist for over 20 years and I am a good one. I have helped many people work through a variety of issues and problems. I thought my life had settled and I had committed myself to helping others. I have been sober and in recovery for almost 30 years. The Method was developed from my personal work. It is not theoretical. Instead, it is based on my experience with difficult life lessons and is the result of much time and study. As one of my teachers liked to say, “It is kitchen tested.” It also means I am committed to The Method as a means of doing personal work. I came from an abusive alcoholic childhood. I was number five of six children from a very poor family. I lost two children in my 20s. I had three disaster marriages. I had been homeless and an IV junkie. I had gotten into legal entanglements. I got sober shortly after turning 30 years old. With sobriety my life changed for the better in remarkable ways.
I worked hard on my issues from growing up in an abusive alcoholic home. I worked very hard on myself. I went to 12 step groups. I attended groups and went to conferences. I not only survived, I thrived. At 30 years of age, I went to college and got a master’s degree in Social Work Counseling. I met my husband, Steve, during my fifth year of sobriety. He was and is a very good man. We worked on our lives and our marriage. I really felt like I had gone through all the negative I was ever going to experience in my life. I helped Steve raise my stepson and then, when I was 16 years sober, we adopted our daughter from Cambodia. She was the joy of my life. Suddenly the pain of losing my two children was gone. My life was full and complete.
It all changed. A series of personal crises ripped my world apart. I felt completely alone and was consumed with a barrage of negative emotions: anger, fear, resentment, confusion. With each crisis, my mind created a story, complete with a firm belief and solid judgments. For months, despite new information and hearing different perspectives, my mind kept repeating its original stories, making no changes to the initial beliefs or judgments. It was like a recording stuck on “repeat.” Looking back, I now see those original stories contained some truth related to the respective crisis but for the most part they were created around past trauma. I was not sure I was going to make it to the other side. I felt completely alone and I blamed everyone else. I really thought I might die from broken-heartedness. I knew that I had to either give up on life or find a way out of the hell my life had become. I worked hard in my own counseling. I began to study and to be open to new practices. I studied different methods of healing but none were complete on their own. I needed everything I was learning not just one technique. By combining all of these methods, I found relief. I also believe I found a way to help others. Each practice provided me a piece of my personal puzzle. I slowly worked through, melded, and modified until I developed The Method. From the development of The Method, it allowed me to go deeper within myself and discover parts of me that were still hidden (my shadow self). The Method has awakened me to see my life as a continuous journey. I am never 100% done with my thoughts, feelings and judgments. However, now I have tools that help me confront and see clearly. I am more gentle with myself and more loving by using The Method. Although I had been meditating on a regular basis, my practice became more profound once I incorporated The Method into the routine. With all facades removed, I saw that others were a projection of me and my fears. By using The Method to remove projections I have gotten to know me. My life has changed in deeper and richer ways and in ways that I could not have imagined. I feel more at home in my skin than I ever have in my life. I know me better than I ever have in my life. I know that I can walk through anything. I do not believe that all my problems in life are over. I believe I have a way to walk though and use my problems to meet and know Pam on a deeper and more real level with every problem that comes up. I had done good work through all those years but there were parts of myself I kept hidden, even from me: my shadow self. It contained my insecurities, pains, dysfunctions and hidden assets. Using The Method, I am now UNHOOK AND LIVE FREE am able to know myself on a deeper, more vulnerable level. It has taught me that much of my pain and anger were created by my thoughts. Today, I see the world and myself through much gentler eyes. I am no longer afraid to feel my feelings. I can dance with happiness and mourn in grief with the same touch, by using The Method. I learned that my thoughts and my feelings change very quickly, depending on what I am listening to inside of myself. They changed so rapidly, they were not the best method for making life decisions. With The Method described in Unhook and Live Free I have a way to clarity, honesty and joy within me. I believe it can work for almost anyone. For that reason I have included a copy of The Method, an introduction, the instructions, and some example sheets for you to begin on your journey today at no charge. My hope is that anyone who chooses can find their way to freedom also. Thanks for allowing me to be part of your journey.